The Time Is NOW

A place for support, intelligence, resources and recovery

“DO IT NOW, SOMETIMES LATER BECOMES NEVER”

The problem is we think we have time. For some people time runs out and it’s too late to do what we might have done to save a life.

Did you know the onset of the signs and symptoms of 50% of the most common mental illnesses is age 14? By age 24, 75% of the signs and symptoms appear. Millions of American’s youth are living with a mental health disorder; according to the Centers for Disease Control, a shocking 1 in 5! Everyone experiences struggles and emotional pain, for young adults and teens these times often become unmanageable. 

Some turn to drugs and alcohol to self medicate, some live in quiet desperation, some behave like everything is fine. You have to look closer.

Because of the illusion of perfection and the plague of stigma, most do not get professional help or support for 6-8 years after the onset of symptoms!

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to see what struggling looks like.

Pain and struggle isn't always obvious, but knowing the signs that someone is in trouble can be learned. Just like you can learn CPR to save a life, you can learn how to intervene in a mental health crisis to save a life.

Research tells us about half of teens who are thinking about suicide tell a friend. Less than 25% of those friends tell an adult. Suicide doesn't happen in a vacuum. There is rarely just one “reason” a person decides to end their life. But a cascade of intense negative emotions combined with hopelessness, helplessness and the utter deconstruction of the self can cause suicidal thinking and behavior.

Most people most of the time would never consider killing themselves. For those who suffer from a mental health disorder these high level inhibiting factors can fall away, the desperate need to end pain and suffering defeats the intrinsic will to live. This time of desperation is usually not permanent. It can pass much like any other health crisis, with immediate and proper intervention. 

If you are worried about someone who may be thinking about suicide saying things like this helps:

●    I’ve noticed you’ve mentioned feeling hopeless a lot lately….. Are you thinking about suicide?[1]

●    Are you thinking about ending your life?[2]

●    Do you have any weapons or prescriptions medications in the house?

●    Who can you call if you think you may act on your thoughts of suicide?

●    Promise me you will not use drugs or alcohol until we can get help.

●    Promise me you will not harm yourself or act on these thoughts until you can meet with a professional to talk about it.

Saying things like this hurts:

●    You're not going to do anything stupid are you?

●    I know how you feel

●    Have you tried…….. ( fill in the blank)

●    I promise I won’t tell anyone what you tell me

●    Let me take care of the problem for you… it ‘s not

      about the problem -it’s about feelings.

●    You have so much to live for, what are you thinking?

●    Suicide is wrong…..Don’t judge or act shocked.

●    What about your family?

If you are in need of immediate help, please call 911.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is: 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

The Crisis Text Line can be accessed by texting BRAVE to 741-741.

National Resources

●     National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

●     Mental Health America (MHA)

●     Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA)

●     International Bipolar Foundation (IBF)

●     American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP)

●     Campaign to Change Direction

●     MentalHealth.gov

●     Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

●     Postpartum Support International (PSI)

●     Addiction Center

The time to save a life is now….right now.

[1] If the answer is yes, it is vital not to underestimate the danger, ask about when, how, where, if there is a plan the risk is very high. Act Now!!

[2] Yes? Act Now!

What Can You Do About Anxiety?

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Maybe you’re dealing with some very real challenges today, unemployment, loss or grief, family conflict, mental or physical issues, legal problems. Maybe your feelings are finally dealing with you because you have not yet dealt with them. Maybe alcohol or drugs are ruining your life. Whatever the trouble, take it to the bank, you are not alone...

Peace is an Inside Job

A place for support, intelligence, resources and recovery

“The toughest opponent of all can be the one inside your own head”
~ Unknown

If you are like many people a disembodied nuisance is alive and well serving as narrator in daily life. A staunch supporter of all things negative, undertaking to confabulate and editorialize every move. A relentless know it all leading to feelings of intense anxiety, guilt, sadness, fear, doubt, and a whole host of other disturbing states of mind. My clever little troll scores high marks for creativity considering the elaborate, sophisticated schemes meant to limit my life and block my joy!

After concerted effort I have learned to silence my inner critic most of the time. Like many of life’s most confounding mysteries the truth is quite simple, it doesn't cost anything but not knowing can cost a great deal! While it may seem obvious it’s not a skill easily mastered by most of us.

Are you ready? 

Simply notice. Humbly, meekly even passively notice.

Without overthinking, take a moment to consider a couple of sounds around you, gather them as you read this. A copy machine, a keyboard typing away, a muffled conversation. No matter, just let impressions of your surroundings waft into awareness. Wiggle your toes. Notice the texture touching your toes, warm socks? the inside of a shoe? A cool floor, the sandy beach? Now simply notice your skin and your body. Sitting or standing? Are you thirsty? Take a full deep breath, swallow, close your eyes. Just be in your body. Now turn your sensitivity to your thoughts. Simply notice thoughts, like clouds floating in the sky. Imagine the natural you, the “real you” as immense and limitless as the sky. Clouds, of all shapes and sizes may float through, even changing shapes as they come and go. The clouds are not the sky. You are not your thoughts. The sky is constant and ever present, even when it cannot be seen. So are you, the real you is always there no matter what your thoughts are. 

When we are defensive, self righteous, greedy, judgemental,manipulative etc., our inner tormentor has hijacked the situation and has accessed control. The practice of  simply noticing your thoughts will allow you control of yourself, to choose how to respond to the world around you. The “real you” will call the shots, not passing thoughts.

You can avail yourself to this skill freely and at anytime. In line at the grocery store, driving in your car, walking into work, taking a shower, there are so many opportunities to reflect on your inner life. 

Let’s review:

●    Notice the world around you

●    Notice your body

●    Notice your thoughts

That’s it.

Practice this often to gain peace of mind. Everyone will wonder what you’ve been up to! Share what you know about silencing the killjoy that’s been following you around. 

Share your experience below, was this helpful?  How has it changed the way you relate to others? Share your success.

It works, try it,

A Story of A Mended Heart

A Story of A Mended Heart

Sociologists call it the “five generation rule” it says the environment in which a child is raised, the love, support, and education provided influences not only that child but the next four generations.  This theory also applies to child neglect and abuse giving rise to devastating consequences plaguing future generations.  Generational dysfunction is learned and passed down through families. Could that be the meaning of the phrase “the sins of the father are visited upon the son”? Like heart disease and high blood pressure run in families, behavior patterns run in families.  But how do some people break the painful enduring chain of family dysfunction and overcome life limiting behavior patterns?