The Time Is NOW

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The problem is we think we have time. For some people time runs out and it’s too late to do what we might have done to save a life.

Did you know the onset of the signs and symptoms of 50% of the most common mental illnesses is age 14? By age 24, 75% of the signs and symptoms appear. Millions of American’s youth are living with a mental health disorder; according to the Centers for Disease Control, a shocking 1 in 5! Everyone experiences struggles and emotional pain, for young adults and teens these times often become unmanageable. 

Some turn to drugs and alcohol to self medicate, some live in quiet desperation, some behave like everything is fine. You have to look closer.

Because of the illusion of perfection and the plague of stigma, most do not get professional help or support for 6-8 years after the onset of symptoms!   ← Watch this

to see what struggling looks like.

Pain and struggle isn't always obvious, but knowing the signs that someone is in trouble can be learned. Just like you can learn CPR to save a life, you can learn how to intervene in a mental health crisis to save a life.

Research tells us about half of teens who are thinking about suicide tell a friend. Less than 25% of those friends tell an adult. Suicide doesn't happen in a vacuum. There is rarely just one “reason” a person decides to end their life. But a cascade of intense negative emotions combined with hopelessness, helplessness and the utter deconstruction of the self can cause suicidal thinking and behavior.

Most people most of the time would never consider killing themselves. For those who suffer from a mental health disorder these high level inhibiting factors can fall away, the desperate need to end pain and suffering defeats the intrinsic will to live. This time of desperation is usually not permanent. It can pass much like any other health crisis, with immediate and proper intervention. 

If you are worried about someone who may be thinking about suicide saying things like this helps:

●    I’ve noticed you’ve mentioned feeling hopeless a lot lately….. Are you thinking about suicide?[1]

●    Are you thinking about ending your life?[2]

●    Do you have any weapons or prescriptions medications in the house?

●    Who can you call if you think you may act on your thoughts of suicide?

●    Promise me you will not use drugs or alcohol until we can get help.

●    Promise me you will not harm yourself or act on these thoughts until you can meet with a professional to talk about it.

Saying things like this hurts:

●    You're not going to do anything stupid are you?

●    I know how you feel

●    Have you tried…….. ( fill in the blank)

●    I promise I won’t tell anyone what you tell me

●    Let me take care of the problem for you… it ‘s not

      about the problem -it’s about feelings.

●    You have so much to live for, what are you thinking?

●    Suicide is wrong…..Don’t judge or act shocked.

●    What about your family?

If you are in need of immediate help, please call 911.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is: 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

The Crisis Text Line can be accessed by texting BRAVE to 741-741.

National Resources

●     National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

●     Mental Health America (MHA)

●     Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA)

●     International Bipolar Foundation (IBF)

●     American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP)

●     Campaign to Change Direction


●     Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

●     Postpartum Support International (PSI)

●     Addiction Center

The time to save a life is now….right now.

[1] If the answer is yes, it is vital not to underestimate the danger, ask about when, how, where, if there is a plan the risk is very high. Act Now!!

[2] Yes? Act Now!